Observing the water teaches me [that] Resilience isn’t trying to hold on to all you have been and somehow get through. It is the flow of water that responds to its environment and even changes its form, yet never changes its fundamental nature.

Anyone can slay a dragon, he told me, but try waking up every morning and loving the world all over again.

Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us..

If you see successes and failures as being placed in your path to teach you things, you are more likely to be psychologically hardy and therefore more resilient in the face of trauma.

Resilience is really a secular word for what religion was trying to say with the word faith. Without a certain ability to let go, to trust, to allow, we won’t get to any new place.

Here’s the real kicker. The people who break free from their past aren’t the ones who never made mistakes; they’re the ones who stopped identifying with those mistakes.

Falling into grief is a very difficult invitation into falling into love with the next level of generosity in our life; [It’s an invitation to] let go of what we’ve held on to so tightly in another person in order to re-find the world, or let it come find us.

The truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.